Hi again,

I’m not trying to make you feel bad but I’ll be honest in saying that I can see why she took jabs at your reason for wanting to end things. It was a less messy way out for you and it put the blame on her, made her feel like she messed up, that she was overcommunicating via text with you and it turned you off. So, the natural response from her would be to fix it, stop communicating as much, after all, it really is a minor transgression, isn’t it? But you were having none of that. Your mind was made up. So the logical conclusion would be the one she made, the more accurate one about why the break up was happening.

So yes, she was hurt, but also pissed off. What you are seeing now is the pissed off part.

If your mind is set on getting her back then you need to be honest with her. Write her a letter and explain the real reason why you ended things. Look, she already knows! Tell her that your inexperience and ignorance about her issues scared you, that they still scare you but that you want to learn more, and that you miss her. Seriously, what’s wrong with that? Those issues would scare me too because they’re scary.

But now you say “the physical part of our relationship wasn’t completely there for me but its something i can work on”. Wait, what?? I don’t think so. It’s either there or it’s not, in my opinion.

B