Dear Angelgirl:

You wrote that at work, “some people even find me aggressive”- can you elaborate on what you mean by aggressive, in the context of work, an example or two perhaps?

In the context of personal relationships, you wrote: “I still don’t find people who make an effort. They are happy to sit and wait till I make the effort. The lazy ones. That’s what I don’t understand. And I meet them over and over again. It must be a lesson I am not learning”-

– then it must be a lesson you do need to learn. I will be glad to help you understand and learn this lesson. So I ask: are you referring here to men only, in the context of romantic relationships? What is that lazy behavior you are referring to, that which you encounter (from men?) over and over again, can you detail it?

anita