Hi Jasmine,

I agree with Marge. It sounds pretty black/white to me. He’s said he didn’t want to be in a monogamous relationship and that just friends would be better if you wanted either/or  (either monogamous or just friends). It sounds like you gave him a choice between those two things, and he chose.  It’ll be up to you to make sure you don’t fall back into the relationshippy-type stuff if you choose to remain friends with him, because it sounds like he’s perfectly fine with being friends with benefits or having blurred friendship lines, so he’s not going to be the one to keep those lines clear. It has to be you.

If you don’t think you can keep the friendship/romance lines clearly defined, then you should probably cut ties. Maybe later down the road, when he IS ready for a monogamous relationship, he will contact you then. You just have to figure out what’s going to be right for you… either friends with blurred lines or just friends, because he’s clearly taken a monogamous relationship off the table.