Dear Jasmine:

About your boyfriend’s mother referring to your mother as crazy. You wrote: “my mom and I have had a lot of tension in our relationship in the past, and I’m sure my boyfriend has communicated that to his mom, but she still has never met her, and has no right to talk about her like that”-

– if I understand correctly, your mother displayed crazy behavior in her relationship with you. You then told your boyfriend of more than seven years about it. Maybe he witnessed it himself. Your boyfriend then told his mother about it (anytime during the more than seven years, maybe repeatedly), and his sister either heard it from him or from their mother.

Recently, in a group message, his mother communicated to two people only that your mother is crazy. These two people are her son (your boyfriend) and to her daughter. The three of them have been familiar with this information for years.

Am I understanding correctly?

anita