Dear Chris:

A greeting that includes “you old whore” is so unacceptable, way at the extreme of the unacceptable spectrum of greetings. It requires not only an apology but an adequate explanation: where in the world did this greeting come from, what motivated Tim to call the parent of his friend an old whore???

I understand the connection you made to you having been sexually attacked by your cousin when you were 11, but the nature of the greeting a year ago is a big problem in itself. Your son shrugging it off is also a big problem.

Do you have any idea what prompted that rude young man, Tim, to address you that way?

anita