Hi, Anita,

That would have been one of my questions to him.  I think I recall my son explaining that he was drunk, but that doesn’t seem like a good reason, and he didn’t seem overly intoxicated to me.  I feel that it is well understood by males and females that this is a term meant to show deep disrespect.

It is so odd, I feel that I need to tell you that I am a very supportive parent, have a great relationship with my ex-husband (the father of my son – I am having him and my mother in law for Thanksgiving dinner tomorrow), I am an accomplished professional and very generous.  I hosted and paid for my son’s wedding.  I gave them a sizeable down payment for their home, and have given my daughter in law money to pay her tuition.  I volunteer at a children’s teaching farm, plant trees for a land conservancy…it is odd, because I feel like I need to defend who I am.  I am so ashamed about this!  I know I have a right to be angry, but I am stuck there.

I think I need to see my therapist.  I have a good person that I have worked with off and on over the years.

I appreciate your kind response.