Dear Billy:

“if I did one thing or another different would have it been the same?”- no, it wouldn’t have been the same. She would have still tried to hurt you best she was able to, but she would have used different words, depending on that something different that you would have done; she would have still destroyed your home but not in identical ways, maybe worse. And maybe she would have hurt you with a kitchen tool instead of smacking you with her hand, if that is what she did.

And maybe she would have kept that baby, and she would have been a  mother now. How very unfortunate that would have been to her child. You can imagine, can’t you, how her very angry and abusive behavior would have damaged a vulnerable young child?

I assure you, if she became a mother to your child, she would have greatly harmed that child, and she would have continued to abuse you as well. That anger (which fueled her borderline-personality-disorder behavior) doesn’t go away because one becomes a mother. On the contrary, it gets worse, as a young victim is added to the mix.

anita