Dear Melissa:

I read your posts in July and your update yesterday. I read quite a few stories regarding marriages  in Asian culture where parents determine who their adult children marry. In India there is a custom where the parents choose who their son marries and then they move with their son, and with the wife they chose for him, as well as with their children as an extended family. Even if families nowadays don’t follow this custom this strictly, still there is parts of it going on.

Reads like his parents pressured him to marry his ex girlfriend and he is about to do that. Another custom, designed not by parents but by the adult children is that those pressured or forced into marriage compensate themselves by having extra marital affairs with ex lovers, or future lovers.

I wonder if this is your boyfriend’s plan, to marry her and continue a relationship with you, in addition to his marriage. Do you think this is his plan or intention?

anita