Dear T23:

From the little you shared, it seems to me that the best way for you to proceed is to establish a rule that there will be no cuddling, kissing or sex, no physical contact between you and your wife, for as long as the relationship trouble is not resolved.

Then attempt to resolve the trouble preferably by going to marriage counseling with your wife.

If you want to discuss this further with me, will you answer: did she complain to you about you and/ or about the relationship, and if she did, what did she say?

anita