Dear limbikanimaria:

You are welcome and thank you for your kind words.

“she didn’t seem like a mean or cruel person”- doesn’t mean she was not a mean or cruel person. Traditional cartoon artists make sure that a mean and cruel character looks mean and cruel at all times, but in real life mean and cruel people aren’t cruel and mean at all times and when they are, they don’t necessarily appear that way, on purpose or because of disassociation.

Regarding why her comment resonates with you, it probably has to do with what you shared Dec 2016, in your thread about shame, you wrote that comments your mother made left you “to feel immense amounts of shame.. incredibly shameful comments… These comments are haunting me and I want to make peace with them and my mom”.

She never apologized for those comments, did she.

(I will be back to the computer in a few hours).

anita