Dear Daniel:

“I can lack empathy when I feel tired, sad or hurt”- we don’t always feel empathy, no one does. Feeling empathy is tiring because it uses energy, this is why there is a term called empathy fatigue, used regarding psychotherapists, nurses, doctors, and other professional in the health profession who interact with people who suffer.

I do hope you get to satisfy your hunger for closeness via “an intimate and loving relationship”, sometime in the near future.

You wrote: “I noticed that I can be a bit cold to some people.. I don’t really know why I do this”- if you want, and only if you want, you can elaborate on this, giving me details of a situation where this happens, and I will try to help you understand why you do what it is that you do.

anita