Dear Lindsey:

I am glad to read you had a good time in Florida, but am sorry that you feel badly about your (very soon to be) ex husband. I remember you mentioning in the past that he had a key to your place and I never understood why that is- I don’t think that he should be inside your home and I don’t think you should be inside his home. The two of you are not friends! You are ex spouses, ex as in the past. The only reason you should communicate with him is co-parenting, that is all.

If you don’t g0 inside his home you will not see those cards, and if you minimize your interactions with him, limiting it to co-parenting 0nly, you will be less exposed to his relationship with his girlfriend and therefore, less distressed.

You shared how miserable you were with him, how for a long time, you had sex with him every so often just so that he will not scream at you. How do you feel about that misery you experienced with him now, as you look back?

anita