Anita,

Before I answer, I continue to get into texting arguments with him and they get really ugly.  I want to stop  this immediately but I get sucked into them.  It’s almost like an addiction.  I’m thinking of blocking his number and just sending emails.

My answer would be :

a. I feel like a loser because I don’t have any relationship with a man and the couple that I did have were far from stable and serious.

d. He is trying to hurt me but I can’t prove it, similar to my mother who tried to hurt me, but I wasn’t able to be sure that she did, or to prove it to her, or to anyone else.

My own: It’s unfair.  He has set up a new life/new family with a new person in 2 months.  I’m also afraid it will effect the kids even though it doesn’t seem to effect them now.  She is not me and it’s not the same.  He’s moving things along with her at “warp speed.”  What does this say about her?

Lindsey