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January 9, 2023 at 9:35 am #413498
Don’t give up on Kooper- he could show up at your door anytime. Regarding my love life things are very good. I went with his family ice skating on New Year’s and met his mother and sister. They were very nice and we had lots of fun in Chicago. Tomorrow is his birthday dinner; Jason is turning 45. How is your love life if I may ask?
Also- my mother bought me a very expensive purse for Christmas. For me it was a symbol that I am good enough, I have her respect and admiration. Our relationship has improved so much over the past year. It has started to do wonders for my self-esteem and lack of responding to my ex. (it’s still early but so far so good.) Having Jason has also helped- to be honest- and this sounds a bit snobby- I am better than my ex and his fiance. He dresses like he is 25 versus 39 and there are more things that are not worth mentioning.
LindseyJanuary 3, 2023 at 12:42 pm #413146
I hope you had a great New Year!! Hopefully Kooper has made a recent appearance LOL.
LindseyDecember 25, 2022 at 7:28 am #412618
Merry Christmas to you Anita!! Hope you enjoy the holidaysNovember 30, 2022 at 2:14 pm #411021
Thank you! Hope you enjoyed Thanksgiving and had a relaxing holiday weekend.
LindseyNovember 4, 2022 at 11:47 am #409547
Sounds like Kooper will most likely be back to your house on his own- they can sense good people. Also his owners sound a bit unfriendly.
I hope your hip is feeling better soon. It is supposed to rain today and tomorrow here.
Still recommending a beagle puppy LOL – you can fly with them in a carrier.
LindseyNovember 4, 2022 at 11:09 am #409544
I’m not sure how friendly you are with your neighbors but maybe ask if you could dog sit Kooper if they leave on occasion?
Things are going well. Jason and I went to Chicago last weekend- lots of good food!
I am taking on more responsibilities with the kids- Amy has forgotten jackets and water bottles- the jackets were important last week- it was 45 degrees out and they were outside playing until pick up at 4. Aiden said he was freezing. I think she is being passive aggressive with me- she takes it out on my ex and he takes it out on me- Using the Family Wizard app after the letter from his attorney have improved things for me- I document for the future.
LindseyNovember 4, 2022 at 8:03 am #409534
How is Kooper and how are things? I did not like hearing about how the son spoke to him!
LindseyOctober 23, 2022 at 2:29 pm #408949
How is the Cooper status?
The interviewer never came onto the line for the interview- I waited on hold for 20 minutes. I have not heard back. Maybe that is a sign the company is not all that great- I’ve never had a company do that.
Things have been a little difficult this past week. I received a certified letter from Jon’s attorney stating that I was harassing his fiance Amy and that my “paranoia” she was pretending to be Jon and write texts & emails was not true. I was really upset when I opened it that evening- this was Wednesday. I called my attorney the next morning and she wrote the attorney an email requesting him to not send me any letters directly as she was still representing me in the matter. She also brought up the fact that he went up to me intoxicated at a college baseball game around March of this year attempting to discuss the case- she requested for him not approach or harass me again as I was very uncomfortable.
I had to start using the Family Wizard App again because it is court ordered and requested in the attorney’s letter. I stopped using it in an attempt to stop Amy from communicating but it didn’t work- I was grasping at straws. Per my attorney I wrote in the wizard 2 things in the last month he did that was not following the parenting agreement. I could send a complaint email to the attorney board (I can’t remember their exact name) regarding the attorney’s behavior approaching me but I do not want to add fuel to the fire.
Things continue to be steady and positive with Jason.
LindseyOctober 13, 2022 at 2:02 pm #408413
I have an initial phone interview Monday at Liberty Mutual Insurance!
Regarding Jason and the photo. My mood for the last 2 days has fluctuated from anger, hurt, confusion. Since today my emotions have calmed down a bit. When I see him tomorrow night I am going to give him some firm boundaries in personal matters.
we will go from there I guess.
LindseyOctober 12, 2022 at 10:50 am #408367
work wise we are just understaffed and over worked. I’m looking on the internet for a new job. Big step not sure what I will do.
Currently dealing with a serious issue. Monday night Jason took a very personal photo of me while my head was turned and I could not see what he was doing. He’s asked to take personal ohotos of me before and I’ve always said no.
It didn’t really register with me about him having his cell phone and taking a picture until the next morning. I sent a text asking him if he took a picture and he said yes but deleted it. We had a phone conversation and he apologized. I keep going back and forth from being upset and then when he says something nice temporarily being ok.
I am thinking about ending the relationship. The photo was as personal as you can get. I feel humiliated. I am very sensitive about my body and I do not like taking pictures in general.
I feel drained about even having a conversation because I’m also angry. He knew I would say no about a picture.
I’ve spoken with 1 or 2 close friends about what happened. They think I need to talk with him but the situation may not call for a breakup.
I feel this will linger especially in the bedroom. I think about just not wanting to deal with him and start house back riding. I don’t know if the relationship will be healthy for me. It affects me more due to coercion with sex during my marriage. Help.
lindseyOctober 3, 2022 at 9:50 am #407893
I still think you need to get a beagle puppy!
Yes I agree with you. My job is very stressful and busy right now- definitely bigger fish to fry so to speak. Best to let that go- my anxiety is fueling the fire b/c of my own traumatic past and being uncomfortable with my feelings… and myself.
My unhappiness with work is another struggle. Will send a more detail when I can later…work is crazy.
LindseyOctober 3, 2022 at 9:09 am #407891
Last night I told him I get nervous about putting myself out there because I do not like to feel vulnerable. Because we both had difficult marriages – trauma involved- things are difficult in new relationships- which he agreed. I also spoke about how I like to take things slow- used your example of dipping toes in the water. He agreed about prior trauma in his marriage and that was it. I said I didn’t think the sending the song was a good idea. He was quiet and did not add much while I was talking.
I woke up this morning with the thought I never cleared up the meaning of the song- I sent a message this morning saying I wanted to make sure it was clear that the song was in reference to liking him- not more- when we spoke last night. He responded with “I do.” and sent a joking emoji. I didn’t say anything else beside have a good Monday. I do not want to keep bringing up the subject however I want him to be clear about the meaning of sending the song.October 3, 2022 at 8:11 am #407889
I can try the sauna approach but I don’t think he will thaw LOL.
Here is an example of how completely confused I am. So yesterday I came across and really good song about liking how someone makes you feel etc. Then I got anxiety about sending it. First I thought a song was a bit cheesy but most importantly he would take it as an indicator love is being said (well, singing actually) versus really what the lyrics say. I spoke with him later about it when I went to his house. I felt things were a little off but possibly b/c of the anxiety of the situation. We spoke briefly about it but I woke up this morning thinking I never told this guy that the song meant I really like him and do like how he makes me feel (per the lyrics of the song).
So I sent him a message this morning about it saying the song meant like and not more. Was more than like his impression? He responded with “I do” and a joking emoji. His unclear responses are annoying. I’m not bringing it up again since I feel like i have already and I do have anxiety. I’m sitting here still confused as to the entire situation.
LindseySeptember 29, 2022 at 7:58 am #407645
I think Kooper will come running into your house soon enough wagging his tail. I still think maybe you need to get a beagle puppy possibly when they are available for adoption? (you mentioned beagles that had previously been at a lab).
Your answer about Jason is insightful. I did not think about it from that point of view. I am frustrated because I feel he is giving mixed signals and not clear. I felt rejection when he responded with “not really, just telling you about a free movie” when I think is was very clear there was a possible chance we would run into each other. I said that directly to him and he just shrugged his shoulders saying “I don’t know.”
We will see each other tomorrow and I’m thinking maybe I should just let it go. Not beat a dead horse so to speak. I’m confused about all of it- I don’t understand how to move forward with people saying things about us being together for awhile and not knowing how to talk about it with him because he seems to freeze up.
LindseySeptember 28, 2022 at 1:35 pm #407621
No “I love you” said from me. My anxiety creates… turmoil.
How are things with Kooper?
I am feeling that Jason sometimes gives mixed signals. For example, last night he said there was a free movie at his children’s elementary school playing outside on a big screen. He said they may go. I said well…what if we run into each other if I go with the kids? He said “I don’t know” and I didn’t say anything else. This am I asked him if he was saying that for the kids to meet each other or just saying there is a free movie. He replied “more just letting you know there is a free movie at the school.” This is not the first time I have interpreted mixed signals….. what do you think that meant?
Also I feel a little pressure because people have asked me if I have met his kids and when I say no they go “wow, you guys have been dating a long time.” My mom even asked if I wanted to invite Jason when the go snow skiing next March. I said no mom he hasn’t even met my children. I am still not ready for the children to met. He stated what we have now is perfect and I agreed with him
I just do not like it when he is silent and I said I would not be surprised if that happened eventually, referring to the kids meeting….