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  • #406851
    lindsey
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    Dear Anita,

    Try microwaving cut up pieces of hot dog until the pieces are hard. Make a trail leading into your house?  Also peanut butter and a toy? Keep me posted with Mr Kooper the Beagle.

    Lindsey

    #406852
    anita
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    Dear Lindsey:

    What a great idea, and I do happen to have Hebrew National hotdogs in the frig, thank you. I did try the food trail strategy using Hunter’s favorite Trader Joe’s treats: it worked during one time (during Labor Day weekend), didn’t work the 2nd time. I then tried salami pieces the second time, he loved those and it got him passed the door, but he turned around and left, too scared to stay. I will keep you posted regarding Kooper the adorable Beagle. Have a great weekend!

    anita

    #406907
    anita
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    Dear Lindsey;

    I told you that I’ll keep you posted about Kooper. Well, it is 7:20 pm now. Less than an hour ago, he was in the house again, eating snacks. His favorite: salami wrapped in mozzarella cheese, walking around, sniffing. I got him to eat from my  hand, but he easily gets scared and runs away with his tail down. I wish he understood that there is no reason for him to be afraid here… I can’t wait for the time when  he’ll be relaxed in the house, no longer afraid.

    anita

    #407225
    lindsey
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    Dear Anita,

    Have you thought about getting a Beagle puppy or dog sitting Cooper for the neighbors?  My vote is for a puppy!… or 3.

    Lindsey

    #407226
    anita
    Participant

    Dear Lindsey:

    I definitely thought about getting a beagle, especially since lots of beagles were recently brought to the local animal shelter from some medical experimentation operation in another state. They are not for sale yet, as I understand it. It’s the responsibility that keeps me from having one. As far as dog-sitting Kooper… a great idea, but they love taking their two beagles on vacations with them (RV type of vacations). How is your Monday?

    anita

    #407227
    lindsey
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    Dear Anita,

    I would definitely get one of those beagles if I lived in your area. Bugs would have a buddy LOL.  Busy Monday but same old same old.  Going to get a pedicure in about 30 minutes- can’t wait they are my favorite.  How is your Monday? You should get one of the Beagles in my opinion. (keep me posted).

    Lindsey

    #407228
    anita
    Participant

    Dear Lindsey:

    Bugs is a beagle??? I am thinking… of getting a beagle after all. Enjoy your pedicure. My Monday is fine and dandy, a lazy Monday.

    anita

    #407271
    lindsey
    Participant

    Dear Anita,

    Bugs is an Australian Laberdoodle but loves other dogs. We went to the dog park yesterday.  Yes I definitely think you should get a Beagle puppy!

    On a side note I think that the like with Jason has turned into love as of yesterday. It just entered my brain I’m not sure how to explain it. Anyway I don’t think I should say anything to him.  I’m afraid he does not feel the same way and if he says no things will go downhill for  me in the relationship.  My palms are sweaty writing this. I actually just spoke to him on the phone and thought about just saying it but I just don’t think that is a good idea. Also- what if my brain is creating a scenario for rejection or issues because everything is going great?

    Lindsey

    #407274
    anita
    Participant

    Dear Lindsey:

    An Australian Labradoodle- that’s as cute as can be! Talking about cute, Kooper was in the house twice yesterday and never has he been so comfortable- he was on his back, exposing his belly! He loved the treats (which is usual) but in addition, he loved being scratched and petted. His ears folded back, he bounced and jumped like only a puppy can:  it was all a dream come true!!! So, IF Kooper will be here as often as Hunter used to be- it’s like having my own beagle puppy.

    About the like changing into love– do not be alarmed! There is nothing you should do about it. Besides the love can change back to like at any time (if you calm down about the recent change). Feelings change… if you let them. Try to not obsess about the recent change of feeling. Nothing in Reality changed, right? It’s Only a Feeling.

    anita

    #407275
    lindsey
    Participant

    Dear Anita,

    So happy Kooper has made himself at home:) Dogs make everything better.

    Very wise wisdom regarding the “love” feeling.  Not really obsessing more wondering if I should say anything. I think not at this point. We cannot take back things we say in the moment.

    Lindsey

    #407277
    anita
    Participant

    Dear Lindsey:

    I appreciate you being happy about Kooper making himself at home, indeed a delight!

    About saying anything to Jason: you can say it (I love you) silently, in your own mind- as many times as you want to, whenever you want to- just don’t make it audible, that’s all, because if you do, you are inviting unnecessary trouble.

    anita

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