Dear kiwiboy0897:

I will re-read and reply further to your recent post when I am back to the computer in about 12 hours. For now, regarding “the thought of my partner simply even being friends with Steve scares me”- I think he shouldn’t be friends with Steve because it scares you. It is not that he has been friends with him and you want him to end that friendship; he hasn’t yet been friends with him yet, so no reason to start a friendship when such scares you (and for a reason: Steve knew your partner had a partner and yet he came on to him in a sexually aggressive way that one time).

Feel free to add another post if you have more to say, and I will be back to you.

anita