Dear Zoe:

You shared that you are in a 3 year dating relationship with your “sweet, caring, understanding” boyfriend . He was there for you during your 1.5 years of serious depression 24/7, and talked about your future, being very serious about your relationship. Problem is that he has “a drinking problem”, and you are “almost paranoid about drinking” because you were raised in an alcoholic family. You talked to him about it many times, but he told you that “he can’t quit drinking”.

You want to end the relationship with him, but you feel guilty because he was there for you 24/7 when you were depressed.

When he “gets drunk he becomes a total different person. Violent”- can you explain what you mean by violent: does he break things, hit people.. what does he do?

anita