Dear Pedro:

“out of nowhere it happens to me to stop having a feeling.. I swear I don’t understand this”- it seems like out of nowhere, but it comes from somewhere, and even though you don’t understand it now, you can understand this, and I can help you understand. I will need to ask you questions so to help both of us understand your situation.

What you shared is that you live with your parents, that you “literally grew up with them arguing”, “sometimes even with violence”, that you feel sorry for your mother and angry at your father, and distant from him. You are also distant from one brother.

1. I didn’t understand this sentence: “My greatest strength in the middle of all this will have been my brother”- can you explain it to me?

Regarding your girlfriend, you shared that sometimes she gets upset, but she doesn’t know why and you don’t know why either.

2. Can you give me a couple of examples of her getting upset: what did she say and do when she got upset?

At one point, “she started getting weird and asked for a break”.

3. How long ago was it that she asked for a break?

4. Did she ever explain to you why she wanted a break at that time, and why she was distant from you for about two months?

I understand that English is not your first language, so please take your time (no need to rush)  and write to me as clearly as you can.

anita