Dear CB:

“he has changed to become unrecognizable”- it hardly ever happens that people drastically change: it can happen as a result of a stroke, or if a person suffers a brain injury. People don’t spontaneously change drastically. Usually, it’s that we didn’t know the person to begin with, or that we didn’t notice who they’ve been changing slowly,  for a long, long time. And it is only when they do something drastic, then we notice that .. something really did change.

Like you suggested before, he probably planned on leaving long before he did. He’s been changing for a long time before he left, before you noticed that he changed.

How is the weather, where you live? Here it is sunny, a change from how it’s been lately. It’s hard to imagine there is a pandemic going on.

anita