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Hi Serife,
Status, or where a person is in relation to his/her peers, is important to many people so they gravitate toward those who they believe will elevate their status. Good-looking, strong, independent, out-going, athletic, successful, intelligent, funny, popular people are generally perceived as having higher status than unattractive, weak, needy, introverted, unathletic, unsuccessful, less intelligent, serious, loner-types, and being associated with the higher status group is generally considered more advantageous. Maybe it goes back to the ‘survival of the fittest’ concept; by aligning ourselves with the “fittest” we increase our own chances of survival. So people post photos on social media to make themselves appear to have high status, and they brag about their kids’ accomplishments, and even their own, all in an attempt to attract others to themselves. When you’re caught up in it it can be difficult to make sense of, but once you see it for what it is it’s quite eye-opening! As you enter different phases in your life it’s nice to know what motivates people.
B