Dear Lisa:

His feelings fluctuate too. No one (not a single person in the whole wide world) feels love for another person all the time. Sometimes a loving person feels no love. it is natural, and it is normal. You panicked because you expected something unnatural from yourself: to always feel love, to always feel attraction.

A loving relationship is not about the impossible: to always feel love and to always feel attraction. It is about appreciating your boyfriend/ partner, liking who he is, thinking that he is a good person, liking how he treats you.

When you panic about not feeling a certain way, you get fear in the mix, and fear is like a tornado that messes everything up, a chaos, confusion.

That’s why I suggested  to you to relax: exercise daily, etc., to lower that fear. Add to it realistic expectations about feelings and love, and you will be okay.

anita