Hi Anita,

Thank you for your reply. It hurts me because I’m afraid what he said is true. I struggle with depression. My mother was an alcoholic and my childhood was rough. My mother died in her sleep and I found her. I’ve been struggling to make it on my own. My ex saw the depression. I wasn’t angry when he said it. I was – and still am – deeply hurt. I didn’t retaliate. I said nothing but his words will haunt me for a very long time. After he said it I said, “You find your mom dead with ants crawling on her and tell me how you turn out.” He did not respond.

Part of what bothers me is he has a drinking problem. I did not retaliate by calling him a raging alcoholic. I didn’t want to hurt him and if I had said that, believe me, my conscience would get to me. It bothers me that he said it and has shown absolutely zero remorse. Instead he found love and marriage within weeks and everything fell into place. I believe that the way we treat others comes back to us. It seems that there have been no repercussions or consequences to him hurting me.

As far as why he said it, I really don’t know. I don’t think he said it purposely to hurt me. I just feel he doesn’t care. He has zero ability empathize or have compassion. I think he was happy he found someone else and just didn’t care what he said or how it might have affected me.

• This reply was modified 4 years, 7 months ago by Stacey.