Hi Graham,

What you may need is a process. It starts with recognizing it… then getting whatever you are recognizing to the surface of your skin… and then getting the cry out.
The difficult part is actually getting the cry out.. and that usually happens after a process. You might try meditating, it helps for a lot of people, but it uses introspection. You might wanna try what is called an Active Meditation or also called (Osho Dynamic Meditation).. it helps to get the cry out. You may google it, and there is a lot of examples and information, or some Bioenergetic exercises… but all of them take and form a process.

Good Luck.

Carlos.