Hi Anita,

Thank you for your response. No I didn’t know him before that. So I can really not tell. We never talked much about his passed relationships, simply because I never asked much about it. I only know he had a relationship for 8 years and after breaking up, he was single for 5 years. He dated in the meantime, but nothing serious. We took things very slow. I think we said that we love each other, just weeks back. And now him telling me dat it doesn’t feel good anymore, broke my heart especially when he said he feels relieved for breaking up. That was just to much information to share and made me feel even worse. I took my responsibility, I know I have fears I have to work through. I know he is not responsible for how I feel. I’m trying and most of the time we had a wonderfull time. This was our first big fight, and not even really big….I was done with it after 10 minutes….but I guess for him it was enough and he totally shut me out and never gave me a chance again to talk about it. I even dont know why he cried that much. Was it because he knew this was the end, was it something else, was it because he felt bad because of the situation. There was one point he said that he caused this whole situation, and that he felt bad about that. But I told him to let it go, that it was oke, we can work it out. I really dont know. If a man says I’m done, I will try to talk 1 time and if he still insist I will just let it go. Thats why I wanted to go to his place and drop his keys in his mailbox and send him a message after i would do that, so I can move on with my life. But then my mind is keeping me from doing it, because what if he calls for his keys and we get another shot to talk things out. My friends usually know me as someone, that wants te be done immediately and now tell me to take no action what so ever and just wait. I find that really hard and I know that this is because I feel like I lost control about the situation. He was very clear, but I really wonder why he is waiting this long to get his keys back. As you can read, I really dont know what to do next. Bring his spair housekeys, put them in the mailbox and move on, or just wait it out till he reaches out. Because I’m still willing to work things out, but you need 2 person for that.

Thank you Anita,

I think I need some time to think about this. Just today I told my niece that I will wait untill friday and do it then. For me it’s weekend then and I know I will feel terrible after doing that. I dont want to do that during the week, because I need to concentrate on my work. I came home after 10 days staying at my sisters house. He lives like 40 minutes from my place, that’s why I said to him he can come and pick it up anytime he wants.