Hi Anita,

I agree. I thought about it over night and came up with a possible solution. When we originally had the talk, he asked to give him until end of the year to decide if he is ready then to move in. I feel like in January, if he is in the exact same place mentally (not knowing if he is in love/unsure about living together) then at that point, it may be end game for me. I feel like at that point, we will be almost 2 years into our relationship and he should 100% know what he wants by then and if not, then he clearly is not invested in our relationship.

I feel that might be a good time frame (not that I would tell him the time frame – that is just for me). I am hoping he comes around well before then like he said he very well might.

He does show love absolutely and it is true he may never actually say the words to me even if he is in love. All my friends and family see it and so do his friends and family. I guess growing up with a family who was never verbally affectionate made him the way he is and maybe showing it is just as good as saying it in his mind. He IS a good man and I don’t want to lose him. However if by 2021 his mind has not budged, that will raise a big red flag for me, knowing his mind will not change and it will be time to let go and move on.

I am hoping he come around and realizes how good he has it with me and makes the move to move forward with me.