Dear Jessi:

The good news is that last time he talked to you about her was February this year. The bad news is that he still has all those photos of her, and records of their conversations, with backups.

Like the title of your thread indicates: “Obsession, idealization.. is the reason behind all of this”- you knew it all along. I have no idea why he idealizes her (exaggerating her physical attributes to her favor), and does not express enough appreciation of your attractive physical attributes.

Maybe, just maybe, she reminds him of .. his mother, or an older sister, when he was a young child. Young children do idealize the women in their lives. Did you see photos of his mother/ older sister.. an aunt when they were younger? (disclaimer: this is a wild guessing on  my part, I have nothing to back it up, just wondering).

anita

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