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Jessi
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@anita, Exactly it must be something weird in his head, because he has talked to me about this woman like 10 + times in different occasions, first time he even said she was a model and executive in her job, etc, and since I am very curious I found out she’s not. He has to have some sort of personal problem to why he does this, cause I would never say even my ex bf was super handsome, I would never say he was a model or anything that  ridiculous.

It gets to me that he over exaggerates her attributes and I feel the reason is 1-) because as I said he idealized her to the end and 2-) to make me feel insecure, plus he is insecure and of course 3-)  To make himself look more valuable and interesting 🤔 

Another thing is that maybe because he got married to an older woman when he was 30 and this woman looked like his mom ( when he got divorced he began to see the real light, and meeting more younger prettier girls, including this one and he went crazy cause he began to live his life again and do the things that he couldn’t before.