Dear miyoid:

I respect your choice to stay with him, and I will not suggest again that you separate from him.

You staying with him so faithfully is different from how your parents were with you (“my dad and mom’s love was a bit unpredictable, exists and then disappears… I’ve experienced being emotionally and physically abandoned“)-

– you definitely don’t and won’t abandon him, and you are very predictable in his life, being with him no matter what.

You shared that during the visit with your parents you were depressed and “he kind of transformed into a better state and tried to help me and comfort me in any way”; once the two of you returned to the house you share, you felt better and “he started to feel depressed again”.

Earlier in your recent post, you wrote that “he was always there for me when I needed, I feel like I should be there for him and I want to”-

– When the two of you stayed with your parents you needed him and he was there for you. When you returned to the place you share, you felt better, but you still needed him.. why did he stop being there for you?

anita