Hi all. I have been reading this blog for a while and feel like sharing something I am dealing with now.

In the spring I met a guy  and we started seeing each other quite regularly. It was going to be a temporary thing as we were both travelling abroad a lot in the upcoming months. When I left a month after we met, we kept in touch and when I came back two months later we kept seeing each other, this time a little bit more seriously. In total I have been in touch with him for about 5-6 months and around him physically for two months, but now he is working in Asia for a year. We keep in touch and say hi almost every day but we have not made any promises or commitments to each other. I do feel tho that I want to be with him, yet I am afraid of having that conversation with him as it doesnt seem very necessary, afterall we are in a good place and defining things does not necessarily change anything except that I would have some better understanding on whether we are being exclusive or not. I hate being the kind of person who needs a commitment, why not just live in the moment and see what happens? It feels like such a socially imposed thing to have to define things…

I can see myself with this guy in the long term, but I am afraid to wait for him because what if he meets someone else in the meantime and I wasted my time waiting for someone whom I didnt commit to? Should I try to define things between us or keep going as it is and just see what happens? I do like dating, and honestly I do not know if I can hold on for a year if no type of commitments are made between us…I am afraid eventually I will start dating other people out of lack of clear communication on what we are doing.

I hope this is clear, I have a hard time expressing how I feel!

Lizzie