Hey @Tim

Thankyou for ur prayer.

“He feels guilty because he has made a mistake and hurt someone by leading them on and using them. This is deplorable, the more you accept this standard of behaviour and make excuses…”

I haven’t accepted his behavior,what he did wasn’t fine or okay ,it was the worst. But I am just trying to understand why he did all this.I want to know the mentality behind it. I am gonna leave him either way.

Other than this i know that it happened because of his immaturity and that he needs alot to evolve.

“I’m telling you, he was aware of what he was doing”… He said “i swear i didn’t have any intentions of developing ur feelings for me… If i knew this day would come ,i would have never talked like this..if i knew these qould be the outcomes i would have never sone this”… He didn’t know what he was doing unless the outcomes came. My heart,mind isn’t accepting this that he knew it already and he did this intentionally so that it breaks me..nor have i ever felt these kind of vibes from him,deep down i know it wasn’t intentional … “If” i ever had felt in these 4,5 years that it was intentional then i would never have continued this friendship with him.

“Did he at the time question his morals or loyalty to his actual girlfriend?”

He would have if only he called it ‘wrong’. I used to make him understand and he used to understood temporarily..But used to start again because deep down he didn’t called it ‘wrong’. How can someone mend their behaviors when they aren’t even calling it wrong ?!And yes now when he is awared ,he is now questioning his loyalty for his gf too.

-Lula