Dear Inquisitive Soul:

You are welcome.

You wrote regarding your mother: “I’m not quite authentic with her too”, and you added “I just can’t break the ice. This feeling (fear?) is so strong I can’t fathom it, whenever they ask me how was the day going, what’s up etc. I sometimes tend to lie and say everything’s ok”-

– whenever they ask you how did your day go, you tend to lie and say that everything is ok- who is “they”? And do you tell them that everything is ok because you don’t want to trouble them, to cause them to worry?

You mentioned a “hard and stressful period in my family. They tried really hard to keep me away from the ‘bad stuff'”- I wonder if you have been trying all along to keep them (your family members, I assume) from the bad stuff being how badly you feel when you feel badly??

anita