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The word “obsession” really jumped out at me because I have been there before and it’s not a pleasant place to be. If life has taught me anything, is that obsessions of any kind are not a healthy way of going through life. You can love something or someone, be passionate, or enthused, but to develop an emotional attachment that verges on obsession will always result in pain and suffering.
Whenever I feel obsessed, I recognize that I’m doing so because the foundation on which I’m standing is not very stable and I’m clinging on to something or someone outside of myself in order to find comfort and stability.
So I would ask, if you look under your feet, how would describe the foundation on which your standing? How stable do you feel in your life? Are you standing on a strong rock that allows you to see the world clearly? Or do you feel like you are are on a wobbling life raft in the middle of the ocean in search of a passing boat to come by?
If your foundation is not strong and if you can’t feel the firm rock beneath your feet, you will naturally cling to people and things outside of yourself. And remember, nothing outside of you is that stable, permanent, or secure. Stability and security have to come from within first if you are to ever build a strong and healthy bond with others.