Dear JemJem:

For the purpose of not making your work  environment unnecessarily negative and complicated, I suggest that you (1) don’t mention the other female co-worker to the married man, (2) stop the sexual relationship with your male co-worker who is a married man.

For the purpose of not living in conflict with yourself, I suggest that you adhere to what you value, which is to not engage in a sexual relationship with a married man.

For the purpose of no longer being as lonely as you are, I suggest that you (1) attend psychotherapy /counseling so to address the anxiety, depression and low self esteem that stand in your way of having a healthy relationship with  a man, and (2) find a way to meet a single man with whom it is possible for you to have a healthy relationship.

anita