Dear Peace:

You are welcome. First, I want to correct what I wrote to you earlier: “no, you are not being selfish to correctly evaluate him as an irresponsible and dishonestly manipulative person, and prevent him from further taking advantage of you”.

You asked how can he sound so normal after receiving bad information regarding being deported: well, it may be a lie that he is about to be deported. He may have made it up so that you will send him more money for supposed legal fees he has to pay to fight deportation. I wrote to you that he is “dishonestly manipulative”, meaning that he may lie to you, so that you will send him money.

Don’t assume that what he tells you is true.

Being “sweet and kind” can also be part of his dishonest manipulation: if he talks sweetly and kindly to you, then you are likely to feel sorry for him and send him money. If he behaved bitterly and rudely to you- you will not feel sorry for him, and you will not make you want to send him money. Do you see my point?

anita