Dear IpkRO9:

May 8-9, 2018, regarding a different man, a breakup: “I am not able to move on, especially because I dream about him every day, I wake up feeling awful then I work on being better and then again as soon as I am not busy. The question that why could he not call or text even once bothers me so much that it is hard to sleep well.. I always have had the fear of being left alone all my life“.

April 11, 2021: “I have a strong fear of being left alone in life.. loneliness haunts me“.

You survived the separation from the first man, and you will survive a separation from the current man. You survived a strong fear of being left alone for more than two decades, and you will continue to survive it.

To do better than just surviving, attend to that strong fear, and if/ when you feel like it: share more about this strong fear, how it feels in your body, what thoughts this fear brings about, what kinds of thoughts and activities awakens/ strengthens it, what kinds of thoughts and activities lessen it, etc.

Do keep in touch, IpkRO9!

anita