Dear Anita,

thank you so much for your answer!! Yes exactly! It is a whole lot of time, more than I wish to spend doing it, which might sound weird because there are couples out there trying to have more sex but I can also assure you that there is such a thing as too much sex.

I tried bringing the (verbal!) abusiveness up in a different argument and it ended in her denying everything. I felt very humiliated as I was being portrayed  as a lier. I think that denial very, very often is a sign of knowing what you are doing wrong but havent changed anything about your behaviour yet. I know that after having approached her and her not having changed anything about her behaviour it is time for me to make a change and perhaps take a step back from it as sad as it sounds.

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