Dear Cris:

I heard the term “opposites attract” and I guess it is true for some people, in some contexts, but it is not true for everyone in every context. I don’t know if you and your husband’s attraction toward each other had anything to do with him being a social butterfly and you preferring a nice evening at home. Maybe your mutual attraction happened in spite of this particular opposite, not because of it.

You wrote that in the last couple of years, this dissimilarity (and other similarities) started to wear on you. I wonder if you are tired of entertaining guests in your home, tired of hosting dinners and get togethers. If this is the case, you can stop doing that, and the two of you can socialize for shorter periods of time in contexts that don’t require you to inconvenience yourself, in a casual outdoor restaurant perhaps, or in the local outdoors taproom for a nice, social afternoon.

Or is there something more serious going on (or not going on) in your marriage (?)

anita