Dear Kibou:

I patiently read your recent posts this morning. You have gone far in your “interesting journey of self-discovery and healing” (Oct 19, 2020), a journey that started during the March lockdown of 2020, fifteen months ago. You are exceptional in your ability to hold the complexity of the human experience in your awareness. Many people hold an over- simplified version (and because it lacks adequate complexity, it is distorted).

You wrote: “I could continue to explain further my situation or past, but I do not think there any need anymore”- to me this sentence makes it clear that you do not want or wish to further explain your situation or past, and that includes explaining your mother and your relationship with her. I respect your wish.

You wrote: “I was heard… I received help.. I actually have had many deep connections with others… I learned that all of my feelings were valid and justified… I learned to feel all of my emotions by going through each repressed emotion…  to name the emotions..  I was able to see all of my strengths… I learned to voice my needs (still practicing a lot). I learned to reach out for help. I learned to say no… I learned to let go… Basically, I learned a lot. Last but not least, I no longer feel abandoned”-

– You are doing very well, Kibou. Congratulations for having gone this far in your journey of self-discovery and healing, and thank you for increasing my awareness of the complexity of the human experience, and the need to hold this awareness in mind when I communicate with members.

anita