I understand but how do we really know for sure that fantasy is bad?

Its true the bad thing about being a dreamer is that it leads to disappointment, heartbreak, depression, etc. But the best thing about being a dreamer is also that it leads to disappointment, heartbreak, depression, etc. I say this because from my experience, the life experiences that have given me the most valuable lessons are the experiences that left completely and utterly broken, however for them I consider myself very very lucky because it made me the person I am today. And that’s my point, is that I have trouble accepting desire and craving is bad because if it weren’t for these element of our life we would still be premitive monkeys making bows and arrows. Desire and craving leads to evolution and growth.

I don’t mean to rude but john your idea of happiness is too ordinary for me. I’d rather live in loneliness and despair if that is all life has to offer me. =|