Dear AP:

I re-read your posts because I want to understand better. Here is what I understand at this point:

1) You are very much in love with your ex girlfriend, and you very much desire to resume a love relationship with her: “I still believe to this day she is my soul mate, but the timing was wrong… The issue is, I still love her. I have been unable to date (I tried) because I believe that we are meant to be… a part of me that (as much as this limbo hurts) feels like I got my soul mate back even if it is just a sniff”.

2) You are a single and available woman, but your ex-girlfriend is not available because she is in a new relationship: “Surely if she was satisfied in her relationship she wouldn’t need me or my kids in her life… getting too close could possibly jeopardize her new relationship”

3) Recently, you messaged her that you will be moving closer to where she lives (currently you are about 200 miles away from her). Her response: “good for you! hope it goes well xx”. She did not offer to help you move, she did not suggest that she was happy that you will be moving close to her. She did not suggest anything like good for us.

* In regard to her response above, you wrote: “Maybe having me message her that we are moving closer suddenly panicked her as now it needs to be more than words?”-

– In regard to the words she said to you, do you mean these words: “My ex said that if my daughter ever wants to message her she can and she will always be there for her... My son said to her that we may see her and that he loves and misses her and she said, “yes, we may see you and I love you and miss you too“.

Were there other words?

And did your daughter ever message her, were there any communications between your ex-girlfriend and your kids following the words I boldfaced right above (and gifts she sent for their birthdays)?

anita