I completely agree with what you say and I had accepted that 6 months ago when I hadn’t heard from her in 2 years

But then my question remains

Why send gifts to the kids, suggest a chat with , all of these things just to remind me that she has a partner and no longer loves me and wants anything to do with our lives ??

I spent 2 years accepting the fact, telling the kids that we had to move on..

Now they have the message they can message her whenever and she is always going to be there for them.

It feels a wound that healed badly but was no longer bleeding has started bleeding again because someone picked at it until it bled.

Iif there was total certainty I feel she would have never engaged in the first place

I think she wants to be in that place but like myself, she knows the bond we have.. But she is better at putting her head in the sand