Hello anita

Yes i mean a long term relationship for 7 years. It’s not common that long. I mean distant. We were considering marrying. That she come to France or either I live in Ukraine it didn’t matter. But her opportunities are better in France as a pharmacist I believe.
But I couldn’t move. One day she even prepared all papers for embassy. But I didn’t move and papers got expired. From that day, she told me I will have to prepare everything by myself. I never move my finger. I saw with my therapist that one problem I had was issues to move in life, to decide things and to ACT. So years passed. We wanted to marry. We never did. But we wanted. So until the break, we continued our long distance relationship. And she took on herself. Without I see it. When we were talking about it, I accused her she didn’t want to come. But she didn’t feel safe to come without a job.
The lack of job was the problem to have stability. I kinda proposed her but not officially and without giving her a ring. We were planning to marry. When she decided the pause, she told me she was taking back her ”yes”.
So yes there was a big pessimism. She moved for me in a city in Ukraine to be more ”central” in order I come more often. She sacrified her life but I did nothing in return. So she ended up in a flat in a city she didn’t know we took together that supposed to be temporary. Until now she still live there.

Yes she expects concrete actions. Of course I can’t come right now offering this option it would be too easy. I want. But very fast, she’ll want to feel I am ready and mature. Yes she wanted. Of course since this time a lot of water has passed under the bridge. And has I said she will want proves.