Anita,

I believe your theory is right with some additions.

I think the key to getting involved in these types of relationships is somehow I am picking up mixed signals from the beginning. And I am pulled towards that behavior because of my mother.  I was pulled to “S” because of the attention he gave me in the beginning and how he was always complementing me, texting me good morning, sending love songs, etc. I loved the attention because I was loved deprived in my marriage.  When he pulled away I got anxiety-kind of like my mother pulling away?

Yes, my good friend says I pick men as projects.  I don’t know here.  I would keep going back to my mom, sometimes rejections, sometimes not.

Lindsey