Dear Tineoidea,

Another thing is that she began to spend disproportionately large amounts of time with him, going as far as pushing away her friends and me. Likewise she’s been “babying” him a lot as well as excusing him of everything bad he did and fiercely defending him against any criticism. It seems she sees him as some sort of “victim” who needs to be saved.

All of it is very unlike the healthy yet deep relationship we two had where our friends were never neglected and we always exchanged fair criticism.

It appears she was able to function normally with you, but there is a part of her susceptible to this man’s charm and manipulation, which overtook and made her lose her compass. This susceptible part is like her Achilles heel, her weak spot, and she completely lost perspective. Your former friend maybe reminds her of one of her parents, and that’s why she got so blindsided? Do you know anything about her childhood?