Dear Lindsey:

It’s raining and windy here, may lose electricity and internet when the winds escalate. Good to read it’s been a fun and relaxing weekend, and that you are thinking of some fun indoor activities with the kids.

About Marty, you said: you are funny=> he asked: why do you think I am funny? =>you answered: because I am interested in you=>he said: I am flattered.

“Alarm bell went off.  I think he should have replied thanks I’m flattered I’m interested in you too“- a false alarm at this point: you can’t expect a person to say exactly what you want them to say. When he said that he was flattered, at that point, it didn’t mean that he was not interested in you. Unless a person is a lawyer in a courtroom, people generally do not think about making each sentence they say 100% complete and accurate, covering all possibilities.

Next, you said something=> he said: you are overthinking…=> he said: I” drive down to meet you but I can’t commit past that because I am not sure if I will like you. I am guessing within this part of the conversation you expressed your alarm, expressing some dissatisfaction with his answer earlier (that he was flattered)?

“He should of said that we both may not like each other…Another alarm bell.  I realized the vibe I was getting was arrogance”- maybe another false alarm, for the same reason as above: people don’t normally complete their thoughts, producing a 100% complete and accurate sentence.

Next, you said: yes I over think, you can decide if you want to deal with it or not and I’m kind of done with the conversation for the night=>  didn’t hear back from him.

“I wonder if I handled the end correctly”- doesn’t sound like you handled any of the conversation that you expressed here correctly, although I am not sure because I don’t have the whole conversation in front of me. Reads like you had the unreasonable expectation that he would say just what you wanted or needed him to say, that you unreasonably expected any one sentence of him to be very complete and accurate, and that you were not tolerant or patient with him.. just speaking to him. Maybe he started feeling that he had to walk on eggshells with you, having to say things just right so to not get your alarms activated?

anita