Hi Anita,

Thanks for your response. When he last brought it up we had a huge fight where I told him that he has basically disrespected me and my principles by getting this topic up again and he apologised and said these are just fantasies and he wouldnt ask me to actually go out and do it he said he just wants to play it in his head like a roleplay and he wouldn’t ask me to do anything I am not confortable with. Actually I have been with him for 12 years now and yes he hasnt forced upon any of his fantasies on me or anytime while we are having sex so I dont know if I should neglect all the good things in him and the fact that he has kept me so happy throughout 12 years or should I go ahead with not getting involved with this man at all? I am in a big dilemma because both of our families have been involved and everything. I dont think I know whats the right thing to do here and I am having sleepless nights over it.