Just a quick update. It’s been almost 2 years since my original post, and over 2 years having weathered the good and bad in my relationship with this man. I’m not sure that I believe in fate, but I always felt very strongly that meeting him was out of the ordinary, and that I saw us together from day one. The story could have been and was spun many different ways, perhaps I had an psychological bone to pick in continuing my relationship with him; I believe I did but I believe he helped me to heal and fill what I needed to fill on my own.

I’ve come to see over time, that one needs to fully accept someone else completely as they are. We shouldn’t tolerate any sort of abuse, we need to be kind to ourselves first, yet we must accept someone’s intricacies to fully understand and love them. I believe we both have come to do that. We are currently living together and expecting our first child in the fall. It was a conscious decision and everyday I feel more and more confident that we can be kind to one another and raise a thoughtful, curious human being, born out of love. I feel that all the little kinks can be worked out. I know I’m not the picture of stereotypical romance, but when examining the other relationships I see in real life, I see how flawed and yet sincere they are. Intimacy can be born out of discord; sometimes it is only then when truths are brought into the light, and only then can we see that someone else can hold our dark secrets, and that they can become what we learn to love most about ourselves. I do not believe in letting someone treat you badly. You must recognize your worth, and stand for it.

Happy Valentines. I hope that I will continue to be as blessed as I feel as of late, and that you all will too.