Dear Simon:

You are welcome. “I feel my parents have always kept their lives private from me” – but you knew that something was wrong with their marriage, and that something was wrong within the family. But you didn’t know exactly what it was…?

“We only communicated on a superficial level I feel others perhaps share a deeper connection with their parents” – not for lack of trying on your part, I am sure. You tried to communicate with them on a deep level, you tried to make them feel as connected to you as you felt connected to them, but they rejected your efforts, didn’t they?

“With my first serious girlfriend. I developed trust issues” – that was when your trust issues in the romantic context developed, but in the parental context, your trust issues were already established, weren’t they.

“Consequently, lost my girlfriend due to my infidelity…  I look back and feel that whoever I was died with my first girlfriend leaving me my paranoid personality took over and I’ve lived a lie ever since” – paranoid of what might have been really happening in your first girlfriend’s life when not in your presence… and earlier, knowing something is wrong at home, within your family… but not knowing what it is?

anita