Dear Lindsey:

“Our relationship is right on track where it should be.  I mean this isn’t love yet but based on things getting better and better who knows?” – I like your attitude!

“Maybe it is because I will not see him this weekend and I am confusing ‘more’ with missing him?” – yes, I think so, it makes sense to me.

“I am not at a point where I would think about introducing him to my children and he feels the same. We have discussed in the past the 6-12 months mark before introducing kids into the mix… I would not have someone move in until my kids are teenagers or out of the home” – it feels good to read about responsible parenting, how refreshing, my hat is off to the two of you!!

“I do not think I would remarry. I do consider at this point in my life having a life partner/companion” – reads like an independent Lindsey, an Independent Codependent (the latter is in the title of your thread, a word you chose in July 2021). I think that you are way less codependent than you used to be!

“To be honest I feel a little alarmed in general” – this is Anxious Lindsey, but even with anxiety you made progress, it’s just that it takes a long, long time to make a bit of progress, it takes persistence and lots of patience to become a Less and Less Anxious Lindsey.

“I feel a bit mixed up and have not reached out to him today.  I think I should be able to talk with him about it, but these feelings seem very personal” – the place for these very personal feelings is in a very personal relationship with him, so… do you feel that you need to share these with him in person, in more than a week from now or before?

anita