Dear Tobi:

Correction, I meant: “Maybe she was too stressed about the CFA exam and recent events and did not want the added stress of being in a relationship with you”.

“There was one time we were together (we were already in a relationship). She asked me if I was in a relationship with her because I felt pity for her (owing to all the bad things she had gone through in life), and then she cried. I told her I wanted a relationship with her because I really loved her (I still do love her now). At that time, she told me that her heart was tired, and she didn’t wanna be hurt anymore. I calmed her down and told her things were gonna be okay” –

-this description makes me feel empathy for her, and it gives me a view of an honest, intimate emotional exchange between the two of you.

“She would ask me about all the sweet things I said to her and all the sweet acts/ gestures that I did for her. She wanted to be sure that all those things came out of love, not pity. The asking started soon after we’d decided to be in a relationship. Later on, it stopped, and I think that she really trusted me with the fact that I really really loved her (I still love her very much now)” –

– you asked me three days ago: “Should I once a week get her gifts to remind her I’m still around for her? I won’t contact her directly. I’ll just ask her sister to help me deliver” -maybe you should, with a message saying that you love her and respect her and think highly of her.

Regarding email, I prefer to communicate here, on tiny buddha. I will re-read your recent post (and anything you may add to it) tomorrow morning, which is in about 12 hours from now, and will reply further.

anita

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